@thingsthatshouldntremindmeofyou "ok i have a stupid question. im very inexperienced but recently ive been messing around with this guy and im assuming its because of pent up sexual frustration but he turns me on easily like i just cant take it. i love it. but i suck. ive never given a bj i dont know what to do. i can hardly turn him on or make him hard unless i grind on him.(hes a butt guy) i suck. do you have any advice as to how i can tease him and drive him crazy without blowing him. cuz idk how to do that either honestly"
Well if he’s a butt guy then the biggest thing you can do to turn him on is give him opportunities to grab or just touch your ass.
If you just wear a thong under your skirt while you make out with him you’ll make him go crazy the instant he reaches up your skirt.
You could always give him a butt rubbing lap dance. Start off just shaking it in front of him.
Then rub against him resting your hands on his knees, and let him feel all over you or sit back and enjoy your moves. You could even start making out from that position.
You could even let him hold you up against a wall by you ass while you make out.
If you’re just looking to tease him without all the butt action. Trailing your hand up his thigh and then rubbing his inner thigh when you get close to his package will get him going. Lightly scratching his back could work.
Even grabbing his butt could turn him on. You could pull him towards you by his shirt when you’re kissing.
You can tug on his hair if you play with it a little while you’re kissing.
You could even tease him when you first start kissing by licking his lip a little, pulling away, and then kissing him.
Chances are you’re already turning him on by being turned on.
If you wind up blowing him you can read an old post for some “Head Queen” tips:
http://sexismymiddlename.tumblr.com/post/20675467690/my-bf-wants-me-to-go-down-on-him-i-want-to-but-i
There’s also a few turning him on tips in these posts below that I think will help you:
http://sexismymiddlename.tumblr.com/post/22623206991/me-and-by-boyfriend-have-had-sex-like-4-times-and-hes
http://sexismymiddlename.tumblr.com/post/22828727418/i-want-to-keep-my-boyfriend-asking-for-more-but-we-are
- 3 days ago
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@Anonymous "Hi I'm a virgin & wondering when I masturbate, I don't know if im rubbing the right part. I tried around the vaginal opening where I thought the pleasure would be gotten from but the only time i seemed to get some sort of reaction was when I was rubbing vigorously around where I pee. That sounds so disgusting haha but like, was that an orgasm or just my body telling me thats the wrong place? Like I kinda quivered and tensed up and my bits were sensitive? It wasnt THE MOST amazing feeling though?"
You found the right spot. A lot of girls who first start masturbating wind up rubbing around their vagina hole.
But you’re clit or the area around your pee hole is where the real magic happens (if you don’t intend to finger yourself).
Your clit is like a bow on a thin headband. The headband like nerve endings wrap around the outside of your vagina walls. That’s why rubbing up there or putting something inside you makes the blood rush to your clit and gives you an orgasm (sorry that sounds so sex ed).
You probably did have an orgasm, and it’s normal not to think that was the best feeling in the world. Sex brings on a completely different orgasm though where everything feels sensitive, and you might not think that it was the most amazing feeling at first either. I don’t want to say you’ll acquire a liking to it because that doesn’t sound fun, but that happens to a few girls. Chances are you’ll enjoy sex over masturbating even though a lot of girls unlike myself prefer the guaranteed orgasm that comes with masturbating compared to the orgasm game of chance that comes with guys.
- 3 days ago
@Anonymous "Hi I'm 15 and I can not get wet. Like at all, my bf fingers me and I feel like shit because I can't get wet and I think he feels like im not attracted to him but I love him. Is there something wrong with down there, and he wants to go down on me. Will it be pleasurable if im not wet? Please help."
You probably just need more clit stimulation. I’ve dried up a couple times during sex, and it’s not that I wasn’t into it, I just needed more attention down there. Fingering isn’t the greatest if you’re not a little wet to begin with so having him rub or suck your clit while he’s fingering you should help.
So him going down on you might make things better, but only if he sucks your clit (since some guys like to just stick their tongue in your vagina).
It’s totally normal for some girls not to get as wet as others. You’re young too, so your body might not be fully developed in that department yet.
- 3 days ago
